months to one year before the big day is an important stage in your wedding
planning process. Our Wedding Planning Checklist can help and here are three
things you should be looking into right now:
1. Recording Memories
2. Registering for Gifts
3. Meeting with an Officiant
Start recording your
wedding planning memories now! You’ll be glad you did. You may not think
there’s much to add right now, but as your wedding planning gets underway
you’ll have lots of memories you’ll want to record. Check out our memory albums
and photo albums to get you started.
Registering for Gifts
The purpose of registering
for gifts is to make it easier for guests to purchase a gift they know you’ll
appreciate. Of course, it’s a pretty nice deal for you and your soon-to-be
spouse, too. Before you start hitting the aisles of your favorite stores
though, check these tips out:
Register early. You want to register in
time for pre-wedding parties, plus the time it takes to spread the word about
where you’re registered before guests start shopping.
Consider how many of your guests are out of town, and whether your favorite
department store is available where they live or easy to purchase from online.
Check out the store’s return policy. You may need to make some
returns and exchanges, and some stores have strict policies for doing so.
Stores that don’t offer registry programs may do
so upon request.
Approach the manager to see if you can request one. All you have to do is
create a list and keep a copy at the register. The cashier can check off items
as they’re sold. Be sure to check in regularly to see if more items need to be
A couple may register for gifts if one (or both)
has been married before. There is nothing wrong with registering for gifts
when getting married for a second time, but you may certainly opt not to as
Register for gifts in a variety of price ranges. Be respectful of a range
of financial circumstances. There are plenty of smaller items you can register
for that still make great gifts.
Don’t stop at plates and pillowcases. If you feel like you
already have pretty much everything you need, register for everyday items
you’ll need in the future, such as extra wash rags, storage containers and
household tools — gifts that keep on giving!
Gift registries should not be mentioned on
only acceptable way to spread this information is through word of mouth. Let
your wedding party and family know the stores you have registered with to help
speed up the process.
Make a charitable
donation in lieu of gifts. If you have a cause or charity that you believe
strongly in, consider asking guests to make a contribution to that cause in
lieu of a gift. Once again, this information should be spread via word of
Say no to “No gifts please.” Although it seems like the
proper thing to do, requesting no gifts on invitations is still an etiquette
no-no. And yes, this information should be spread via word of mouth.
Meeting with an Officiant
The officiant is the person who will perform your wedding
ceremony. The officiant could be a priest, pastor, rabbi or a justice of the peace.
Whether you already have someone in mind or are still searching, here are a few
important questions to ask:
Is he/she available for
your wedding date?
What kind of pre-wedding
counseling is required?
Are there documents you
need to bring to the first meeting?
What is the ceremony fee?
Are there rules or
restrictions to consider?
Will the officiant give a
Are you allowed to
personalize your vows, readings, music, etc.?
What does the church/venue
provide for decorations?
Are their restrictions on decorations?
When and where do you sign
the marriage license?
Are videographers and
photographers allowed in the ceremony venue?
When will the rehearsal be?
Would the officiant like to
come to the rehearsal dinner?
These are just questions to
get you started. Your officiant is a special part of your day, and you want to
choose him/her based on how well they represent your faith/beliefs during your
special occasion. Choose someone you know and trust, or take the time to get to
know the people you’re considering.
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