There have been wedding traditions as long as there have been marriages, and a lot of couples love making their wedding as traditional as possible. Many grooms still try to avoid seeing their bride before they see her walk down the aisle on the big day, and many brides still try to find something old, something new, something borrowed, and something blue to wear during their wedding. Some of these old traditions can be fun, but there are others people are little less enthusiastic about keeping alive. If you’re planning on getting married soon, don’t feel pressured to follow any of these traditions.
I, ____, take you, ____, to be my (husband/wife). I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life
Most wedding vows can be short and to the point, but if reading that traditional wedding vow put you to sleep don’t feel obligated to say it during your ceremony. Many traditional wedding vows are short enough to fit on the front side of your wedding invitations, and they may not accurately reflect how you feel about your future life partner. Today the majority of brides and grooms write their own wedding vows, or add in their own words with traditional vows in order to make them more personal. Spend some time with your future partner and decide what vows you want to make to one another, and don’t feel pressured into saying traditional vows you may not like or agree with.
Brides Parents Paying For Weddings
Having the bride’s parents finance the wedding isn’t just an old tradition; it’s downright impractical in this economy. There are a lot of younger couples that are still living at home because they can’t afford to move out on their own, and depending on one set of parents to completely pay for a wedding would be far too much of an unfair financial strain on the bride’s family. Don’t feel embarrassed to approach both families for financial help for the wedding if you need to, and also be sure to talk about wedding costs very early on in the planning process so that you don’t have any unpleasant surprises later on.
Giving The Bride Away
Some brides look forward to being walked down the aisle by their father, but other brides may be dreading the traditional walk. Maybe they aren’t very close with your father, or perhaps they don’t like the notion of “giving away the bride” in general. Either way there are a lot of brides who are choosing to forgo the tradition, and there’s nothing wrong with preferring to walk down the aisle by yourself.
Female Bridesmaids, Male Groomsmen
In the past it would unheard of to see a male standing with bridesmaids or a female next to the groomsmen. Following this tradition could leave some very close friends out of participating in the wedding, but today many couples are doing away with the tradition so their friends from both genders can have the opportunity to be in the wedding. Don’t feel strange calling up your best guy friend and asking him to be in your wedding, now there are a lot of couples who are doing it.