You’ve set a wedding date. Again! Yay!
If you had a wedding planning in 2020 or even early 2021, you have our condolences. What an entirely crazy situation, right?
While some couples decided to elope, others have rescheduled their wedding one, two or even three times. What a headache! We’re so happy to report though, that summer and fall weddings are on! If you finally feel confident enough to announce your new date, let’s do it!
Let’s start with an uncomfortable, but common problem…
How to Un-Invite Guests to Your Postponed Wedding
If your wedding has been pushed out a year (or more!), it’s possible your guest list has changed. And, that’s okay! There are a couple ways to handle this, depending on the situation.
If someone was on your initial guest list, and you’ve completely fallen out of contact with them (perhaps you moved and are no longer close with former co-workers), you can honestly let it slide without a notification.
However, if a former guest is still a part of your life, do the kind thing and let them know about the change. A quick text or email will do the trick! Not sure what to say? Here are some examples of how to tell someone they aren’t inviting to you wedding anymore:
Hi Heather – we’re working toward finally setting a new wedding date, but I want to let you know that our plans have changed quite a bit and we’re having to cut our guest list down to just our closest family and friends. As you can imagine, this has led to all sorts of awkward conversations…including this one! 😉 Thank you for your friendship and understanding and we navigate through this weird time. Hope all is well with you!
Hi Brandon – wanted to give you a heads up that we’re FINALLY moving forward with our wedding this summer, but that our guest list has changed quite a bit since our first round of invitations went out. We want to be upfront about this and hope we can count on you sending good vibes our way for a wedding that actually happens this time! Sending love and hoping all is well with you and your family!
Announce Your New Date with a Change the Date Card
Change the date cards used to be quite uncommon…but not anymore! If you had to cancel your wedding and have a new date set, send a change the date card to your guests. Our fun and super-cheap cards let you share your new date and even write a personal note to your guests.
You can keep it simple with just a photo and new date. But if you have extra information to share, choose a style that has room for extra text. Inform your guests about any changes to your original wedding location and update to your hotel blocks.
Send a New Save the Date
Whether you mailed a Save the Date for your first wedding date or decided to skip it, sending one for your new date is great idea! Our newest save the dates cards for postponed weddings are SO much fun too!
We typically advise couples to send your save the dates 6-9 months before your wedding day. But, Covid has changed this rule. If your wedding is rescheduled for even 4 months from now, go ahead and send a save the date, then deliver your wedding invites closer to your wedding date.
Likewise, if you’ve set a date that’s more than 12+ months out, you can sure send your Save the Date now! 2022 is set to be jam-packed with weddings, so getting your date on your guests’ calendars is a fantastic idea.
With Your Wedding Invitation!
Ready to send your wedding invitations? YAY! We normally tell couples to send their wedding invites 4-8 weeks out from the wedding date, but you can sure send them earlier if you have all your information.
Remember to set a reasonable “rsvp by” date so your guests can take their time with their decision, especially if coming to your wedding means traveling.
Best wishes as you finally set your wedding date and plan your dream day! xoxo