Choosing the Response Date

Set your response date 2-4 weeks before the wedding date. We recommend closer to 4 weeks to give yourself plenty of time to tally a final guest count for your caterer. Give yourself at least a week between your RSVP date and the date your caterer needs a guest count because you will need to check in with anyone who hasn’t responded.

Here are a few other things to consider when choosing a reply date for your response cards.

Choosing the Response Date

B-List Strategy
Chances are you’re trying to keep wedding costs down, and the best way to do this is to limit your guest list. Of course, you probably have more people you’d like to invite than room on your guest list, hence the B-List strategy. We don’t recommend this strategy because it usually requires more effort than it’s worth but if you’re going to use it, here’s how:

Send your wedding invitations 4+ weeks in advance. When you receive a decline (within 1-2 weeks of sending the initial batch of invites), send an invitation to someone on your B List, making sure those guests receive the invite at least one week before the RSVP date. Make sure you order extra invitations to do so, and watch your guest count closely! You don’t want to invite more guests than your venue or budget will allow.

Destination and Holiday Weddings
Destination wedding invitations and invitations to weddings over a holiday should be sent 12 weeks before the wedding date. We recommend setting your response date for six weeks before the wedding date. This gives guests six weeks to do some necessary planning, and it gives you plenty of time to prepare.